Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
Tomorrow, April 1st 2025, we have a massively important State Supreme Court election here in the state of Wisconsin. It will decide the balance of the state supreme court, and it's vitally important that we get Susan Crawford elected. Elon Musk has literally poured millions of dollars into Brad Schimel's campaign, and we are fighting for our lives here. I've already voted, and if you haven't yet and you live here... make sure you do.
But no matter what happens tomorrow, no matter what the result is, the fight is far from over. ICE agents are grabbing people off the streets, our public institutions are being systematically destroyed, and our international and diplomatic relations with historically close allies are just, honestly, fucked right now. Today is Trans Day of Visibility, and trans and queer rights have been under steady attack by the right. As a nonbinary person and member of the trans community, I'm genuinely scared for a lot of my friends right now.
But we fight. We stand up. We survive.
If we accept defeat, we are handing victory to those who want us dead. By living and fighting, we carry on to the next day and then the day after that. I know I posted it right after the election last November, but there's a pretty famous Joe Hill quote everyone should keep in mind: "Don't waste any time mourning. Organize!"
Go out, hug your friends. Build a local community if you can, and get involved in your local politics. Make sure you call your Reps and Senators every day if you can, and for pete's sake fucking vote.
We can make it as long as we don't stop fighting.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches' Collective's April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
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I laugh, but still, yeah I can see how that’d get old quickly. Some people just can’t seem to take getting a no too well – they have to pick at it until there’s a reason that they can understand. I guess hoping it’s something they can change or do to change the answer? I dunno. I understand the “But I want to know what’s up” impulse really well, I’m nosey as all hell by nature – but that’s one of those times you have no right to demand answers.
Not experienced a lot of it personally, but used to hear plenty about it from a female friend of mine that wasn’t into guys. She had to deal with a tonnn of “Why not?” and either explain herself repeatedly or have people figuring she was somehow a jackhole for not explaining her sexuality to a random individual.
90 percent sure? I was 100% sure Tracy was already hitting on you, Ruth…
Ruth is never more than 90% certain, as reading signals is a learned, unnatural behavior for her.
No one owes you an explanation of their sexuality, and you owe no one. Unless maybe you’re in the middle of a relationship, then communication is likely a good thing, but still ‘owe’ doesn’t seem the right word.