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Tomorrow, April 1st 2025, we have a massively important State Supreme Court election here in the state of Wisconsin. It will decide the balance of the state supreme court, and it's vitally important that we get Susan Crawford elected. Elon Musk has literally poured millions of dollars into Brad Schimel's campaign, and we are fighting for our lives here. I've already voted, and if you haven't yet and you live here... make sure you do.
But no matter what happens tomorrow, no matter what the result is, the fight is far from over. ICE agents are grabbing people off the streets, our public institutions are being systematically destroyed, and our international and diplomatic relations with historically close allies are just, honestly, fucked right now. Today is Trans Day of Visibility, and trans and queer rights have been under steady attack by the right. As a nonbinary person and member of the trans community, I'm genuinely scared for a lot of my friends right now.
But we fight. We stand up. We survive.
If we accept defeat, we are handing victory to those who want us dead. By living and fighting, we carry on to the next day and then the day after that. I know I posted it right after the election last November, but there's a pretty famous Joe Hill quote everyone should keep in mind: "Don't waste any time mourning. Organize!"
Go out, hug your friends. Build a local community if you can, and get involved in your local politics. Make sure you call your Reps and Senators every day if you can, and for pete's sake fucking vote.
We can make it as long as we don't stop fighting.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches' Collective's April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
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I admit the guy’s kinda flaky…but man Sarah is laying down the hate kinda hard?
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When you look at their meeting, not so much really no. He was an huge ass beyond any remote shadow of a doubt. However, she seems to see him as “I like to be a jackhole rrrar rrar yay” when it more comes off as “I am stupidly straightforward with my thoughts, and simultaneously socially clueless as to how to present this and not sound like a jerk.” – at least to me it does. Shrug.
Honestly though. I mean, I get that she dislikes him because of their initial meeting, but you have to admit, I think she is taking her levels of general dislike and raising it to outright loathing a BIT far.
The problem is, their first meeting was horrible. Sarah deciding then that he needs to be lit on fire is perfectly normal, and the fact that she has to keep associating with him only makes it worse. That said, the dude is actually trying to be polite now, so Sarah’s current behavior doesn’t seem like it will improve anything.
I’ve been the Terrence in these sort of conversations for a different reason. Hate is a very powerful thing. Hate is not just a strong dislike. It takes a lot to get me to hate someone or something. This is obviously not true of others and I have found from time to time that there are people all riled up about some momentary thing that really, I just can’t be arsed to get worked up about.
I leave you with a zen story:
A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side.
The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman.
Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side, and carried on his ?journey.
The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened. After rejoining his companion, he was speechless, and an hour passed without a word between them.
Two more hours passed, then three, finally the younger monk could contain himself any longer, and blurted out “As monks, we are not permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?”
The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”
Does anyone else feel that Sarah’s the sort of asshole they’d hate to have to work with on staff at a con? I’d rather have ten Terrences instead. How many con staffs have been damaged by the Sarahs whose very presence and abrasive attitude discourage many volunteers from staying on?
He did refer to her as “it” in their first conversation. It’s not like she’s totally unjustified.
Yes it is. The level of response is completely disproportionate to the causal event.
Yeah… go around referring to people as “it” and then instead of ever apologizing tell them how little you care about their existence. We’ll see how well that goes for you.
Go around showing a complete lack of forgiveness to people for what could well have been an accident. We’ll see how well that goes for you. Personally, I’d much rather be the one who shows forgiveness in the absence of an apology than the one who is spiteful and hateful in the same circumstances.