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Tomorrow, April 1st 2025, we have a massively important State Supreme Court election here in the state of Wisconsin. It will decide the balance of the state supreme court, and it's vitally important that we get Susan Crawford elected. Elon Musk has literally poured millions of dollars into Brad Schimel's campaign, and we are fighting for our lives here. I've already voted, and if you haven't yet and you live here... make sure you do.
But no matter what happens tomorrow, no matter what the result is, the fight is far from over. ICE agents are grabbing people off the streets, our public institutions are being systematically destroyed, and our international and diplomatic relations with historically close allies are just, honestly, fucked right now. Today is Trans Day of Visibility, and trans and queer rights have been under steady attack by the right. As a nonbinary person and member of the trans community, I'm genuinely scared for a lot of my friends right now.
But we fight. We stand up. We survive.
If we accept defeat, we are handing victory to those who want us dead. By living and fighting, we carry on to the next day and then the day after that. I know I posted it right after the election last November, but there's a pretty famous Joe Hill quote everyone should keep in mind: "Don't waste any time mourning. Organize!"
Go out, hug your friends. Build a local community if you can, and get involved in your local politics. Make sure you call your Reps and Senators every day if you can, and for pete's sake fucking vote.
We can make it as long as we don't stop fighting.
Remember that on April 5th at 11AM Eastern/10AM Central you can join me for the Critical Thinking Witches' Collective's April Brew virtual event! Attendance is free, and you can register here!
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It’s not really defended Terrance as saying Sarah is just as much if not more of an ass at times.
Having known “Sarahs” working cons, I really do not blame Terrance for wanting to just ignore her.
Every time I think Sarah is being unfair to Terrence, he opens his mouth.
I’m beginning to suspect the trouble between these two is going to come to a head at the expense of the Borkcon staff… In my experience, these little squabbles can very easily become surprise landmines.
Terrence just can’t learn to shut up and be nice apparently. I know I used to say offensive things but I’d at least not say this kind of crap.
Err, neither can Sarah? See all the “Terrence/Sarah is just being a jerk.” stuff on this arc, when really all I can see is Terrence starting crap by being an idiot, and Sarah nurturing, watering, cuddling, and feeding the resulting grudge until it’s 50′ tall and taking over cities.
Sure, Terrence is a socially retarded jackass, but Sarah is pretty much all about never, ever, EVER letting one single thing go. She also seems to assume malice long before the thought of lack of competence enters her mind.
In short – they’re both being jackholes – just for different reasons. There’s no “this one’s wrong, that one’s right” here. They both own stock in gas stations and they’re chucking it all over the fire in alternately.
* Sure, Sarah said something nice. If I were Terrence, I’d be suspicious as hell too! Considering that makes her about 1/250… yeah that doesn’t make it all cool.
See, the problem there is that you’re putting “insults someone repeatedly and refer to them as ‘it’ within 5 minutes of meeting them” as on the same level as “don’t forgive someone for insulting you repeatedly”. Sarah opened by being friendly and had to be pushed into being rude, Terrance opened by being rude. Should Sarah have given him another chance earlier? Certainly. But she did give him another chance now, and Terrance still managed to be an ass in response.
And the thing is, I can understand that Sarah wouldn’t be inclined to be friendly after he insulted her when they first met. Even if she wants to insult him, I can understand that, especially if he was rude continuously in subsequent interactions.
But see, the issue HERE is, yes, Terrence was an ass in response to Sarah being nice now. BUT, recall that Sarah started out their interactions for the day with Sarah repeatedly telling him that she absolutely loathed him and hated the idea of working with him, and that pretty much after the day was over she was going to not make an effort to be civil with him. All while he repeatedly tried to deny any mutuality to the hatred and just wanted to get to work on the garage sale. So even if Sarah was trying to be nice NOW, in this particular case I think she sort of shot herself in the foot earlier with her grandiose declaration of hatred for him.
Plus, as Scrappy was so kind to point out earlier, every conversation they have had since the ill-fated first meeting where it all began seems to have begun with Sarah referring to Terrence as garbage in some form. So I can sort of see Terrence having already begun his journey to this point beforehand.
From Sarah’s point of view, she started the day trying to ask Terrence if they could be civil, and he told her she was unimportant,
When the whole reason she’s mad is because he wouldn’t treat her like a person.
Just something to consider.
If the question is, is Terrence or Sarah being a jerk, the answer is yes.
A very fair response to this whole situation, thank you.